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Question:
Can
you also elaborate on the stories you have heard about the control
methods used within QF? How does spiritual abuse within QF actually
manifest itself?
Generally,
most people end up realizing abuse only after suffering some great
loss or witnessing a very significant abuse. For me, I suddenly
became aware of domestic abuse among wives in our congregation and
then learned that wives were told to submit. I refused to believe it
until I worked in the church office one morning. An acquaintance of
mine kept phoning before the pastor had even arrived on a Monday, and
by the time he left for lunch she’d called him and talked with him
multiple times. She would not talk with me.
As the
pastor left for lunch and told me when he planned to return, I asked
him if it were proper for me to know, was there anything that I could
do in the event that this woman called back again. He very glibly
told me that her husband had a scuffle with her, shoved her down
their basement steps, and locked her in the basement. Because of his
attitude and lack of immediate concern, I’d assumed that this had
happened over the weekend. Later I learned that the woman had access
to a phone and was calling the church from her confinement. I was
devastated when I learned that she was trapped, and had I known and
understood, I would have been there as soon as I could get there —
with the police and an axe to liberate her. That is when my own
“shelf”
really gave way.
~
Cynthia Kunsman
The
view of Quiverfull from my vantage
August
2015
